"Next to childproofing, the most important focus over the next few years is undeniably taking care of yourself. The phrase 'get outta this place' is meant both literally and figuratively. There is no doubt that you'll need to get out of your home every now and then to get some space, some time to regenerate and reflect, and the opportunity to finish a gossip magazine so you're crystal clear on whether or not Brad and Angelina really are engaged. You'll also need to get out of the place in your head that is preventing you from putting a positive spin on less-than-positive experiences."
|The boys "holding still" for a picture.|
North Carolina July 2012
I hear from strangers and parenting books alike to make time for yourself to be the best mom you can be. I totally, 100% agree. If I couldn't get out of the house without the kids every now and then, I think my "Love Tank" would be running on fumes. But what qualifies as "me time"? My husband has the ability to stop at the office supply store on his way home, get a hair cut, get lunch with guys in the ROTC, and study in the library. (Listen to this: the library on campus doesn't have a story time hour and you must talk quietly in there! I dream about spending hours in there sipping lattes from the student store... Lucky dog.)
I need a baby-sitter to: get my hair done, visit the "lady doctor," visit my regular doctor, visit my specialist, go to the dentist, work out, shower, do long shopping trips or make multiple stops (have you tried doing a one-hour grocery trip, children in tow, then stopping at the dry cleaners, post office, bank, and pharmacy on your way home? That becomes a three-day to-do list), take one of my boys to to his specialty doctor, take one of my boys to a doctor's appointment just for him (not his brothers as well), and go clothing shopping for the boys. These are things I do regularly. So, throw in time for me to: write in a coffee shop, get my nails done, buy new jeans, a bra, or make-up (having children in tow and trying on multiple items of clothing is a no-no and the make-up counter is not fun with curious hands), or meet a girlfriend for coffee (or a glass of wine). Those are things I want to do or may need to do. I also have a dream list of relaxing splurges: massage, shoe shopping, a weekend away with my husband (or by myself), etc...
Do any other moms feel that their problem isn't "I just don't know what to do with myself" but "I have way too many things I need to do without my kids in tow"?